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Your Growth: The Power of Emotion

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By Karen E. Pfeffer

The most powerful force that affects any relationship – whether social or business, romantic or platonic, formal or causal – is emotion. Your emotions control every interaction you ever have with anyone. And what you need to know is… your emotions are under your control.
Have you ever stopped to take inventory of your daily emotions? Are you generating positive, empowering thoughts, or negative, disempowering thoughts? Your thoughts affect your emotions, and your emotions affect your behavior. In turn, our thoughts and perceptual filters – positive and negative – create our reality.

Are you living in fear and allowing your emotions to filter what you absorb, or are you soaking it all in and then exercising your conscious power to decide what works for you?

Any feeling, positive or negative, moves energy… how are you moving energy? Holding onto anger actually lowers our body pH, creating an unhealthy acid environment. Smiling, on the other hand, raises your pH and alkalizes your body to its natural, healthy state.

Only if you accept and take ownership of what’s showing up in your life right now can you take control and decide what you want to do about it.
The biggest issues with human beings is jealousy and envy. Never return jealousy and envy with jealousy and envy – never fight back with negative emotion against the source of the emotion. If you respond in a different way, the response cannot be with the same energy. When you get negative emotions such as anger, let the emotions be short and intense to finish the cycle so you don’t carry it forward (not staying with it; not thinking of it… helps you stay present).

Our thoughts and perceptual filters create our reality. If you really want to test your reality, challenge yourself to write down all the emotions you have in one day, or morning. Write down and keep track of every negative and positive thought, and review your list. Most likely, you will have more negative thoughts than positive. After all, we are surrounded by more negative than positive energy. You can choose to train yourself to go to the positive.

Challenge yourself, your thoughts and your perceptions. Are they working for you? What do you need to shift? Are you playing victim or can you step into your power to create a new reality for yourself?

© 2011 Fire Power Seminars

Karen E. Pfeffer
Co-Founder
Fire Power Seminars

Experiential Transformation

karen@firepowerseminars.com
954.232.4486

About Karen E. Pfeffer

Born in Venezuela to a father from Kansas and a mother from Puerto Rico, Karen has a unique cultural mix that has inspired her to challenge stereotypes and “push the envelope” at every opportunity. She is a certified practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and PSYCH-K®. She is also a certified firewalk instructor, facilitator, keynote presenter, and does one-on-one coaching for those who want to change limiting beliefs and unproductive patterns.

Your Growth – Taking Action: Making Your Resolutions Work

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By Karen E. Pfeffer

Did you make a New Year’s resolution and/or establish new goals for yourself for this year? What happened to the resolutions you made last year? According to research, most resolutions fall by the wayside after the first few weeks, and people go back to the same old patterns. So where are you in your journey of getting what you really want?

Based on what I have learned through my own life experiences, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and PSYCH-K®, here are some thoughts for your consideration if you truly want to achieve resolution/goals/outcomes:

Know Your Outcome

If you haven’t done so already… decide! Decide exactly what you want, and more importantly, why you want it. Purpose drives one’s commitment. If you are not clear on why you want what you want, the first thing you need to do is get clear. Often, clients I coach tell me they want more money. When I ask them: “Are you sure what you want is more money?” and they reply “Yes!”, I’ll hand them a $20 dollar bill and congratulate them on achieving their outcome, only to hear “No, that’s not what I meant.” Clarity is power and purpose drives it! It is also important that your outcome is:

  1. Stated in the positive (What you do want vs. what you don’t want. Remember, whatever you focus on expands. Your mind cannot differentiate between what is real and what is vividly imagined. What you focus on in life is what shows up!)
  2. Maintainable and controllable by YOU (You are the one responsible for getting what you want.)
  3. Measurable and in writing (What, how much, and by when?)
  4. Congruent (Your outcome must be in agreement with your beliefs and values; your actions must match your words.   NOTE: Beliefs and subconscious programming are both what drives us and what sabotages us, i.e.: “I am not enough”. Studies in neuroscience indicate that as much as 95% of conditioned behavior is controlled by the subconscious mind.
  5. Ecological (What are the risks? Can you do what you need to do safely without causing harm to yourself or others?)
  6. Sensory based (What will you see, hear, feel, smell and taste when you reach your outcome?)

Take Action… Be Flexible… And Adjust

Now that you are clear on what you want and why you want it, the next step is to formulate a plan of action… any action! Stop the thinking process, and start the doing process! Create an action plan with small doable steps that are tied to your outcome.

And notice as you move forward whether you are getting closer or further away from your goal. Be flexible and respond to feedback by making adjustments and changes where needed. If you are not getting the results you want and you are truly determined to achieve them, nothing can stop you. Only you can decide what is good for you. And if you think it’s just too much effort, check out the “Famous Failures” video for inspiration: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y6hz_s2XIAU

In my communication workshops I teach that there are no failures, only learning experiences. We all learn from our experiences… even painful ones. What matters is what you do with what happens. When an outcome does not come out as hoped, it isn’t a failure; you’ve simply found one more way that doesn’t work.

Now is the time to notice what is showing up in your life. Be honest and get real with yourself. Put aside the emotions that compromise your objectivity, and make a list of the evidence that is showing up… become an observer and notice the data – what do you see and hear? You can’t see the situation clearly with your emotions in the way… but by observing the evidence, you can make adjustments. Make the necessary adjustments and continue to take action. You may even need to change your environment or ask for help. There’s no shame in needing a fresh perspective.

I challenge you to create a new reality for yourself, knowing that anything is possible as long as you believe in yourself and in what you really want!

As you continue moving forward towards your outcome(s), remember to love yourself and to give thanks for all that is!

© 2011 Fire Power Seminars

Karen E. Pfeffer
Co-Founder
Fire Power Seminars

Experiential Transformation

karen@firepowerseminars.com
954.232.4486

About Karen E. Pfeffer

Born in Venezuela to a father from Kansas and a mother from Puerto Rico, Karen has a unique cultural mix that has inspired her to challenge stereotypes and “push the envelope” at every opportunity. She is a certified practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and PSYCH-K®. She is also a certified firewalk instructor, facilitator, keynote presenter, and does one-on-one coaching for those who want to change limiting beliefs and unproductive patterns.